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    Caring For Your Parents - what we've learned GF Radio 329

    by Eric · This post may contain affiliate links, its one way we pay the bills. · 4 Comments

    Tracy and Eric talk about caring for your parents, getting the financial and health matters in order, and the delicate dance to power of attorney. Hear of our experiences in trying the DIY route of power of attorney, and why you do need a lawyer to help you navigate managing your parents. There's more to it than you may think.

    caring-for-your-parentsOur experience suggests the best route is to use a lawyer who has experience in elder care. The paperwork varies state to state as to what you have to have. Also, you have to file some of these papers, and provide them to health care providers. This is a long process, so its best to start the conversation early, and proceed in small steps. Its best if several siblings can share the tasks involved, and it may be that one sibling is better at some parts than others.

    Another thing to start planning is to reduce the amount of stuff your parents have. They may cling to items they think have value, and it can be daunting. We were lucky to move out parents into a home that has only one level which has wide doorways, start thinking about this now for yourself too.

    Establishing a relationship with the branch managers of your parent's bank is good as well. You can give them a copy of the power of attorney and if they notice any unusual behavior, they can call you.

    AARP has some resources for planning for caring for your parents, plus there are local social service agencies that can help with this.

    So again, start the process sooner rather than later, and go slowly. Parents are averse to big changes, so small steps work better.

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    1. @rhkennerly

      January 30, 2014 at 10:03 am

      good show. We're both "orphans" now, but struggled with these issues long-distance for decades.

      One good resource: Eldercare Locator http://www.eldercare.gov/Eldercare.NET/Public/Index.aspx

      A database of both local government and private assistance programs for the elderly.

      Depending on your geographic location, there are a lot of social services out there to use.

      We found some respite care for the caregiver, "She, who must be obeyed"s sister, from a religious organization.

      Also found social workers who deal with eldercare issues who helped with decision-making and "negotiation" in some squally family encounters.

      Military Philosophy: go with the person on the scene. "Fly-in weekend rescuers" need to keep their jabbering sibling mouths shut. It's all "easy" and "not as bad as that" from 1500 miles away.

    2. Larry Quicksall

      February 02, 2014 at 6:21 am

      Great podcast for kids of elderly parents. I worked in hospice for 14 years and had this conversation countless times. Let me praise both of you for your ability to talk and plan these needed conversations with your folks. I'm in a similar boat right now. I appreciate your sister's reminder that this is your parent's journey. Good Show Eric...keep it up!

    3. Jim

      February 14, 2014 at 12:44 pm

      I'm 49; keep those junk AARP mail cards. They represent nothing but if you're at goodwill or salvation army thrift store and the clerk says "do you get a discount" I always say "do you take this AARP card?" they eyeball the color and 20% off!

    4. Eric Gunnar Rochow

      February 14, 2014 at 7:31 pm

      never thought of that! neat info there Jim. eric.

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